Alternative Thinking

Good afternoon Wed-heads!

This week's blog is about alternative thinking. And what I mean about alternative thinking is, elegant ways to make your wedding stand out from most. I'm not talking about discount online invites vs. pricey special order invites...I'm talking left field, left of center, out of the norm, out of the box, off your cuff..alternative thinking.

Now this element to wedding planning is completely cool if you're adventurous; and terribly scary if you're not. Regardless of your comfort level, I'm sure you still want something unique to take place at your weddding. I mean, do you really want your wedding to be a copycat of your cousin's wedding from last summer? Hell to the naw! So let's figure out how out of the box you are, and things you can do that will suit your personality and budget!

So since you're a DIY Bride and are planning everything yourself, you will have to decide if you want to plan something hard or easy. It all depends on you, your mood, your budget and the professionals you hire. If you want something unique but don't have the temperment, budget or the time to see it through so it runs smoothly, then that's perfectly fine. And if you want somethng over the top outrageous, and have the money for it, then that is cool too. Either way, if you plan and execute it right, you'll have the DIVA wedding you've always wanted.

The first way to set your wedding a part from the traditional is, Location, Location, Location! Location will make or break a wedding. You will always need a place that will accommodate the number of expected guests for either the ceremony, the reception or both. The location has to be both functional and beautiful. Your location can be grand in scale or very quaint and simple. It can also be a reflection of you and your fiance, or it can be a reflection of your budget. Regardless, get a fabulous location to set your wedding a part from the traditional. Some examples of fab venues:

• Museums
• Art Galleries
• Wineries
• Barns
• Historic sites

Now a fab location will require some extra work than say having your ceremony/reception at a typcal banquet hall. The reason being...most everything will have to be brought to the site! You will possibly need to rent chairs, tables, and linens. You will need a caterer that can transport your menu in large quantities and provide chaffing racks to keep it hot; and wait staff to assist with set up, serving, and clean up. This might cost you a pretty penny on top of the cost to rent out the space. BUT, if you do your research, I'm sure you will find somewhere that will be similar in price to the typical banquet hall reception. For example, rent out the art gallery, find a party rental supplier for tables/chairs/linens and a caterer with bar and wait staff all for $10,000...the same as what you would pay at any typical hall. So having a unique location will require you finding the perfect place, at the perfect price, and the perfect vendor that will work the heck out of it!  You will have to have alot of time and temperment to pull this off. But if your desire is there, go for it!

Another way to set your wedding apart is through the various Menu Trends. If you haven't guessed by now, there are four things that guests will remember about your wedding...the location, the food, how you & the wedding party looked, and the entertainment. I'll be honest with you, most people just go to weddings for the free food and drink! LMBO Sorry to burst your fairy tale bubble! But it's true! Most people want a culinary experience outside of their everyday routine. So you know what, give it to them!!! Go outside the box and do something radical with your menu if your budget allows it. Like instead of doing the typical cold chicken and rice dish, splurge on beef and fish entrees.  Matter of fact, if your guest count is low, go all in and do the prime rib! Who doesn't love prime rib?!  Here are some other budget friendly menu trends you can try:

• Appetizers and Tapas selections (bit size, shareable portions)
• Family Style Seating and Dining (large meal portions designed for passing around a long table of guests)
• Special Gourmet Cuisine (your entire menu dedicated to a particular food genre such as comfort food, Thai food, Mexican, even Vegan entrees)
• Instead of a standard 3 or 4 tiered cake, offer individual sized Mini Cakes; or Cupcakes.
• Dessert bar or Candy table
• Offer a Signature Drink created just for you and your fiance. Have it made of liquors and fruit juices that will match your wedding colors!

And finally, another way to make your wedding day unique is to create an Experience for your Guests. Remember we talked about creating themes and experiences a few weeks ago? Now is your chance! How unique will it be to embed a theme into your day that your guests will remember for a lifetime! But like I said don't go overboard! Do something simple, do something over the top...just make sure you do it elegantly! Some ideas:

• During your ceremony, you and your husband have a tree planted, or give out seeds to your guests for them to plant. Something you and others will be able to see/visit for years to come.
• Hold a traditional ceremony based on religious beliefs; include attire, music, readings etc.
• Same goes for a traditional military ceremony with uniforms, swords drawn etc.
• Have your officiant perform a Sand Ceremony instead of lighting the typical unity candle.
• Incorporate a cultural custom within the ceremony or reception. As long as it isn't dangerous! LOL
• Select a theme you can execute during the ceremony without looking cheesy. For example, I did a wedding where the theme was "Cinderella". The bride arrived in a horse drawn carriage, her groom put on a silver slipper, and they released doves once pronounced husband and wife. And we pulled it off with elegance!

So Wed-heads, there are many ways that you can use alternative thinking to plan your wedding. Just remember, do not go over budget and do not go overboard!  Wow your family and friends without going into debt or ending up on Intagram and You Tube! LMBO

Until next week, take care!

Weddings Gone Wrong!

Morning Wed-heads!

Ok first things first...it's Wednesday, not Monday, and I'm soo sorry I'm late with my blog! I have back to back events and Monday and Tuesday were crazy busy. I hope I didn't keep you waiting too long. LOL

This week we're going to discuss Weddings Gone Wrong. It's not something we planners like to talk about, things going wrong at events. But let's face it, s#$t happens when someone does not do their job, or when a DIY bride didn't have a "plan b". I do not want that happening to you! So here are some videos of wedding mishaps that could have been easily prevented with a little thought and preparation.

Hiring professional wedding vendors

Don't take any chances!

Okay, so once you've seen these videos, you will undrestand how important it is to plan for the unexpected!

The first video, a couple's first dance goes horribly wrong because of the DJ, is problem number one of mishaps on your wedding day. VENDORS NOT DOING THEIR JOBS!! If you think you're coming out ahead by saving money on a vendor, think again!!! Its the age old sayng, "you get what you pay for." Don't pay $150 for a DJ and think your reception is going to be good. There's a reason why that DJ can only charge $150...because he knows he sounds like a train wreck!  Any professional wedding vendor who is going to do their very best for you, will charge you an industry standard fee. Expect to spend no less than $500 and up on a good DJ, photographer, videographer etc. Anyone charging less than that may not be worth it. Hire professionals with documented work, verified credentials, great reviews, and years of experience.

But even if you do hire documented professionals, always have Plan B!!! For example, the couple in the video could have had a back up CD or flash drive on site to prevent this mishap. Most reception halls have bridal suites, and in less time than it took for these "DJs" to completely blunder their first dance; they could have had the best man run to the bridal suite and get the CD of all the special songs that needed to be played. Now they could not had helped their vendor being complete idiots and interrupting the dance once they finally got started, but in the very least the awkward silence and pauses throughout the ordeal would have been resolved.

The second video is a compilation of wedding mishaps that can definitely go wrong the day of. I cringe at the sight of it, like I know you will. But some of these crazy things could have been prevented. For example, don't take chances moving your wedding cake! Have a professional place it and leave it there! And a professional baker will have made a sheet cake for wait staff to pre-cut; your tiered wedding cake being for show, the sheet cake for actual cutting and serving. So if by some chance that your cake falls, there is a back up in the kitchen.

We all want those stylish wedding pictures in quirky settings. But if it does not look safe, don't do it! If there's a chance you or your wedding party will fall and hurt themselves, or worse, get too dirty for pictures LOL, don't do it! Let your photographer get the shots, but do it wisely. What would be worse, not getting a picture? Or getting admitted to the hospital on your wedding day???

And ladies, when all else fails, have two things on hand on your wedding day: 1) Give your maid/matron of honor a few items to keep handy in a purse or in the bridal suite, in case you dirty your dress. There is always the possibility you could get makeup, dirt, or food on your dress. For quick spot cleaning, keep a travel size bottle of baby powder on hand to mask the spot; and safety pins and thread to patch a tear in case you mistakely step on your train or rip a sleeve . And 2) Keep a back up wedding dress in the bridal suite. It does not have to be another full gown, but a simple white dress that you can slip into in case something horribly goes wrong..like you fall into a lake, or you slip in some mud from last night's rain. This dress is strictly back up in case spot fixes won't work. It's not an ideal situation to wear your back up dress, but its better than going through the rest of the day looking a hot mess!!!

So in short, always have a back up plan. Think and prepare! We hope you only have one wedding day, so make it as close to perfect as possible. Develop a plan B for anything that can go wrong that would completely ruin the day for you. And let others know about your plan, in case they have to execute it for you.

Next week, we will discuss alternatives to traditional thinking..how to set your day apart from other weddings!

Until then, happy planning ladies!

Do's & Don'ts

Good morning Wed-heads!

What a beautiful day we're having in Connecticut today! OMG, I can not wait to get out and enjoy it. I have to shop for a few last minute items for two upcoming events. My two favorite things to do..shop and decorate for an event..combined into a few errands!!! I couldn't ask for anything more! LOL So let's get to work!

Last week, we talked about saving money while still trying to obtain every MUST HAVE item on your list. So now that you have some insight on how to stay on budget, let's take a look at some Do's and Don'ts you will encounter along the way.
DO'S

• Do have a list of questions or concerns ready when meeting with your vendors. Questions are very much appreciated by all wedding vendors. We want you to be an informed client. When you are not, that makes our job more difficult. But when you have the power of knowledge, you are in a better position to make better choices with your money.
• Do read every single word on your vendor contracts! Make sure every service item is listed that you requested and the price is as you've been quoted; make sure the event date/time/location is correct; make sure the vendor knows what time he/she has to arrive for set up; make sure the vendor guarantees services that day even if he/she has to get someone to fill in because they've taken ill and will notify you of the change. Just read and re-read the contract before signing. You do not want to sign a bogus contract and end up with a wedding nightmare!
• Do make sure that once you sign your vendor contracts, that you understand their requests of you as the client. Obviously, vendors want you to understand how much you have to pay them, when their deposits and balances are due. But some wedding vendors add extras into their contracts, that you will be responsible for. For example, most wedding vendors such as photographers and DJs require that you provide them a meal during your reception. Don't laugh, this is a very common request! Some vendors will be working an 8 to 12 hour day to fulfill your contract. Set up time before your ceremony, services during the ceremony, services during the cocktail hour, then services for the next 5 hours at your reception. Just like you at your job, you need to eat! In the past, it was a friendly gesture that some clients would offer to provide a meal. But in today's wedding industry, most vendors put it in their contracts so there's no misunderstandings. So DO make sure you advise your reception hall of the extra meals you have to provide; DO make sure there is a vendor table set up for these vendors to eat at; and DO make sure you set aside the additional funds to pay for it.
• Do make yourself a chart of when your vendor balances are due. Per their contracts, some vendors could have fine print that says if the balance is not paid by "this date", they are not obligated to provide services. Don't be the couple that forgets to pay their videographer two weeks before the wedding; and now has no videos! Make sure you know when to finish paying your vendors. And how much! Keep detailed records and receipts of payments as well.
• Do make sure you set aside funds for dress alterations. Okay ladies, now I know the dress means everything to you! And your biggest wish is to find the PERFECT dress. Well you may find the perfect dress, but it will almost NEVER be the perfect size!  Because every size 10 woman is not the same shape in the bust/waist/hips, that size 10 dress may have to be nipped and tucked in some places. So you may think you're getting the dress of your dreams at a fabulous price, at retail stores like David's Bridal, but remember to add atleast $200.00 to the cost of the dress. Alteration costs vary depending upon retailers. And it could be cheaper to go to a local seamstress. But either way, whether it's just tightening the straps or letting the waist out completely, be prepared financially to cover it.
• With that said, Do make sure the alterations will be ready before your big day. Make certain that the retailer or seamstress knows that you need your dress atleast two weeks before your wedding date. You will need time to do a final fitting when you go to pick up your dress. And you also want to try the dress on the week before your wedding, just in case the stress of planning gave you too many late night Cookie Dough ice cream cravings! LOL  Regardless, you want your now-perfectly-fitted dress in your possession as soon as possible!
• Do make sure you set aside funds for undergarments as well. More than likely, your perfect dress will require a special bra, slip, or body shaper. Set aside some funds to make that purchase as well. So when you go back for a fitting, you will try the dress on with the undergarments and see how it will actually look on your wedding day. The retailer or seamstress will know how to proceed if the dress requires a little more/less adjusting.
• Do a trial run for makeup and hair. Can you imagine if you didn't??? You could end up looking like an over-tanned raccoon! 'Nuff said!
• Do ask for help if you need it! You can not do all of the planning and leg work alone. Ask your maid/matron of honor to help. Ask your mother for advice. That's what everyone is there for. Just a tip from what I did for my wedding: I asked several different people for help with the things that they were good at! For example, my mother loves to travel like I do. So I asked her to help me pick the hotel location for out of town guests. My mother-inlaw-to-be loves to sew and do other crafting, so I asked her to help me shop for decor and fabric because I was making special table runners for our reception. I asked my maid of honor to help me work on the favors. And of course, I asked my husband-to-be to help choose the invitations. Every person had a different job and took a special part in my big day. It helped them feel special and loved to be a part of it. And I can not tell you how much it meant to me to have had their love and support. Plus we had a blast doing it!  But if you do not have anyone you can count on, you can always hire a professional planner or decorator to assist you. You can always email me at, info@mysimpleelegance.com. I will be happy to help!

DON'TS

• The biggest Don't I have on my list is, Don't forget to enjoy the wedding planning process! It's not stressful if you don't allow it to be. If you have read my blogs, and start planning early, it will be a breeze to get everything done on time and on budget.
• Don't procrastinate! Do not allow time to sneak up on you. If you are taking my advice, you are starting to plan early and are getting as much accomplished when you can. Now life can not be about the wedding ALL THE TIME ladies, so do plan some down time away from wedding errands. But do not let days turn into weeks, turn into months! You will only be hurting yourself if you procrastinate. It will end up causing you stress you didn't have to have.
• Don't get swindled. Do not let vendors try to sell you something you do not need or want. That's why I said, read your contracts, ask questions, don't sign anything you have not read, and most of all, do not pay for something that you didn't ask for. Unfortunately, we would all like to be trusting of everyone, but that's just completely unrealistic in this day and age of identity theft, ponsi schemes and other "get-rich-quick" cons. The wedding industry brings in millions of dollar each year. Vendors increase their prices 10%-15% just at the mere mention of performing services for a wedding. So be informed, be aware, and safeguard your money. Report any vendor that seems like a scam artist. You'll be protecting future brides from their mayhem!
• Don't forget all of the important documents required when planning a wedding. I coordinated a wedding a few years back for a couple who seriously thought all you needed to be married, was a ceremony! They were young and very naive. The bottom line is, in order for your marriage to be legally recognized, you have to apply for a Marriage License in your city or state. Research all the requirements in your state. Most states just require your drivers license and a fee. Some may require a work visa/passport to verify nationality. And most states require that you get marired within a certain time frame after obtaining your marriage license, such as up to 90 days after the license has been issued. If you're going to a foreign country for your honeymoon, apply for a passport or update your current one if needed. If you need a park permit to have your ceremony in the rose garden downtown, get that paperwork taken care of in advanced as well. Other important documents you may have to obtain or ask a vendor to supply copies of:  Food/Liquor Service Permit (caterer), Vendor Insurance (DJ), Officiant License (Minister or Justice of the Peace). Make sure you know what you need, so you don't have any problems.
• Don't forget to tip certain vendors! Some vendors, or staff members of vendors, do not get compensated enough for all they have to put up with. For example, do you think the driver of that party bus gets paid enough to deal with 12 drunken, rowdy wedding party members?? Nope, don't think so! Do you think that wait staff person is being paid enough to put up with your annoyingly needy aunt who wants a substitute for everything on your menu???? Nope, don't think so!  So in good faith that you will be getting the great service that you deserve, set aside tip money. Whether its just an extra $20 for the limo driver, or start the bar staff off with a $50 bill in their shared tip jar, make sure you do your part to make sure they give you service with a smile.

That's all of the Do's and Don'ts today! Wow, my brain hurts! It's definitely time for some sunshine.

Next week, we'll talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly....several scenarios of weddings gone wrong. And what to do to prevent it.
Til then, take care!

Money Saving Tips

Good afternoon Wed-heads!

I'm off to a very late start today. So let's get to work!

So the last few weeks, we have discussed creating a list of the MUST HAVE items that you absolutely have to have for your wedding; and creating a Theme around a color scheme, or a total experience for your guests. Today we're going to discuss how to incorporate everything you want, while staying on budget.

Now, you may be thinking that you already know how to save money; at the grocery store, at the mall. And I'm sure you are probably a couponing diva! But I'm going to give you some common sense money saving tips for your wedding, that is sure to make you have an "A-Ha Moment"!   Your MUST HAVE and Theme list will be checked off in no time, and your wallet will thank you for it.

Here's some ideas you can run with:

• MORE BANG FOR YOUR BUCK: Ask vendors if they have any discounts or specials you can take advantage of. For example, reception halls charge less for Friday night weddings and Sunday events. Buffet style meals are cheaper than plated meals or butler service. And options like doing a three hour open bar package that turns into a cash bar the last 2 hours of the night, are always more wallet friendly.
• A LITTLE EXTRAS GO A LONG WAY: Find a DJ or Band who offers extras like Uplighting, a Photobooth, or a Projector for your Monogram. It's cheaper to pay a small extra fee to one vendor, than it is to have to contract with two separate vendors.
  
  

  
  
  For example in the pictures above, I was hired as a Decorator for this wedding last Fall. For an additional fee, I rented my Uplights and positioned them as I was setting up the banquet hall. I created a simple monogram and then rented my Gobo Projector to project the image onto the floor. I worked with the DJ to make sure he knew how to turn the projector off after the couple's first dance. It saved the bride and groom tons of time and money; less people they had to pay and communicate with!
  
• OUTDOOR VS INDOOR: Unless it’s a priority for you and your family, have an outdoor wedding. Usually having your ceremony at a church requires a ‘donation’ to be given. Also some churches do not allow you to decorate the way you want to. An outdoor wedding, depending on the site, maybe free or if your city requires you to have a permit for that park location, usually the cost is far less than a donation. But always have "plan B" in mind if the weather does not cooperate on your big day. :(
• LIMO LIES: Have your ceremony and reception in one location. It will save you the cost of renting a limo. Standard limo rentals are based on a 4 hour minimum time slot and can be $700 and up. Why pay a limo for 4 hours, when you really only need it for 1 hour?! Most elegant banquet facilities have a smaller banquet room available, a gazebo, or even a lawn & flower garden, that you can make into a lovely ceremony site. The banquet hall may charge you a $2 per chair set up fee. But if you have 100 guests, that’s only $200 compared to $700+ for a limo to take you from the ceremony site to the reception site. So you’ll save $500+ up front. If you must have a limo, ask them if they offer a cheaper 1 hour pick up and drop off service, especially if your sites are not far from each other. If you need transportation because your sites are too far apart, rethink getting a limo, and rent a nice SUV from your local car rental place. And ask a family friend to drive you. Its far cheaper than a limo and you can keep the SUV over the weekend. It comes in handy for taking all your gifts and other leftovers home.
• WE'RE BUNDLING BABY!: Choose a banquet hall that offers a package that includes your wedding cake. Usually the bakery they use have given them a discount upfront. Other banquet hall packages may include things like chair linens and DJs. Evaluate the prices of paying the banquet hall package vs paying for these things individually. I bet you'll find it's more cost effective using the hall's bundle package.
• "IS IT LIVE OR IS IT MEMOREX?": Ok maybe only you 30somethings and up know what I mean by that...remember Cassette Tapes???? This was the slogan that Memorex, the largest manufacturer of cassette tapes back in the day, used to use to ask people to distinguish between live concert sound, or a quality recording on one of their tapes. Their point was, their tapes were so good, you couldn't tell the difference. In this case, I'm talking about  FLOWERS, FLOWERS, FLOWERS! Unless it’s a priority to you, consider Silk Flowers instead of real flowers; it could save you hundreds to thousands of dollars depending upon the flowers you have chosen. Different real flowers are only available at low costs during certain times of the year. If a florist has to import your Orchids or Calla Lillies from another country, you will pay an arm and a leg for them! Ask your florist if they work with silks. Or hire a Decorator who can work with high quality silks and create the same floral arrangements you fell in love with in that magazine, for a fraction of the cost! Your guests won't know the difference, and so what if they do!? You get to have all the beauty you've imagined, without going into debt. Silks are perfect! If by some chance Silk flowers are a dirty word to you, consider using something else as centerpieces. Ask the reception hall if they have candle holders or lanterns that you can use for free.
  
  
  Can you tell if these are real flowers or silk flowers?
  

• WHY BUY WHEN YOU CAN RENT!: Renting your décor can save a few hundred dollars, and you won't have to worry about storing the items after the wedding is over. SIMPLE ELEGANCE EVENT PLANNING offers a vast array of Centerpiece Vases, Candle Holders, Lanterns, Ceremony Site Decor, and Chair Sashes to make your wedding day extra special.  Find a one stop shop vendor like me! It will save you time running from store to store looking for items. It will save you tons of money you can use towards something else on your MUST HAVE list. And it might even save your marriage! LOL I guarantee in 5 years, your partner will be happy when the basement/garage is not packed with leftover wedding stuff you never used again!!!!
• LAY OVERS: When planning your honeymoon, traditionally couples leave the day after the wedding. Which is usually a Sunday. But keep in mind most airlines have cheaper departures on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday.  If you can, plan to wait a few days before you leave. You won't have to rush to leave and you can spend more time with out of town guests before they return home. You can't beat having more family time while saving money. Now that's a beautiful thing!

Hope some of these tips help you achieve all of your MUST HAVES while meeting your budget goals. If you have any questions about my Decorator Service or Wedding Rental packages, email me at: info@mysimpleelegance.com.

Next week, we tackle Do's and Don'ts...advice on possible mishaps you could encounter while planning your big day. Let's keep these pot holes from turning into gigantic sink holes!!!

Until then Wed-heads! Happy Monday!

Creating A Theme

Good morning Wed-heads!

OMG what a beautiful day here in CT! I can not wait to get out and enjoy it. But first we work, then we play!

Last week we discussed the importance of researching the best vendors and pricing for your big day. Check out the following link to the Central CT Post as a recap of what I talked about.
http://centralctpost.com/2014/05/26/tips-to-avoid-wedding-day-blues/

With today's topic, Creating a Theme, we move out of the "work" phase of planning, and into the "fun" phase! This is why I'm passionate about weddings...I love to decorate!!! I love creating a fabulous atmosphere that my brides and their guests will remember for a lifetime. Your guests may not remember the vows you spoke. They may not remember the food you served. But they WILL remember walking into the reception location, seeing the beauty and feeling the awe that you created for them. Notice I said, "...that you created for them." Thats right! Yes, it is your wedding day! But the entire point of having a full wedding celebration, instead of say eloping, is to experience and share your joy with others. So with that in mind, let's build a theme, that you AND your guests will absolutely love and remember for years to come.

The first step in building a theme is decidng if you want one! Themes essentially can be anything from a simple color scheme you want to use throughout the wedding, or it can be a total "experience" you want your guests to have on your wedding day. You will incorporate your theme into all of your wedding essentials, Save The Date cards; Invitations; Flowers; your Centerpieces; your Cake; and even your Favors.

To build a theme based on a color scheme is relatively easy. First, comb through the magazines I know you have hoarded under your bed! LOL Select the shade or shades of your favorite colors that you want to work with. I would then advise that you find either a fabric swatch or any tangible item small in size (a linen napkin, a piece of jewelry, a picture), that you can take with you EVERYWHERE as a reference point to make sure your color is not compromised. Take that article with you when shopping with your girls for bridesmaids dresses; when meeting with the reception hall to select linens for your tables; and especially when meeting with your florist. Visit websites such as The Knot.com, or purchase this season's bridal magazines to see which colors are "in", or what secondary colors will compliment your main color nicely. Remember you are going to incorporate your color(s) into everything, so make sure you love them and that they are pleasing to everyone's eye.

To build a theme on a total experience is alot harder to do, but oh so worth it! First decide what you and your partner are into. If you love the beach, then do a beach theme. If you love the great outdoors, you can do a rustic garden theme. Or if your cause is bigger than yourself, for example, you live a totally "green" lifestyle, then do that. It's totally up to you! What you do is, take the theme and build every element of your day off of it. For example, If you live "green", then use recycled paper for your invitations; have a reception site that is near the ceremony site so you and your guests can walk from one place to the next without using limos and reducing your carbon stamp for the day; or offer cupcakes instead of cake to lessen the amount of food waste. Using the picture above, this couple went with an outdoor rustic theme. You can imagine that their invitations were wrapped in burlap and the paper could have had an antique look to them. Their ceremony was more than likely held outside or perhaps in a rustic barn. Their decor probably had elements of wild flowers, plants and even fruits. From the picture, it looks as though instead of individual place cards, they went with seating cards displayed in a wonderfully rustic fashion that their guests could easily view in a beautiful setting. Creating a total experience is all about a "feeling" you want your guests to experience. However small scale or grand you decide to display it, visit The Knot.com or sites like Pinterest to help you discover ways to convey your theme nicely.
I will be the first to tell you, when creating a total experience, BEWARE of going over board!!!!

Sometimes brides get way too carried away with themes. Too much of anything is never a good thing! I'll give you a perfect example:

And this IS a true story. My husband who's a DJ, did this wedding a few years back. Now as a man and a DJ, LOL, he really did not pay attention to any of the decor when he first walked into the reception hall, setting his full concentration on providing the entertainment. It was only after the wedding when he noticed how far this bride went with her theme. The bride came over to him as he was packing up his equipment at the end of the night. She asked him if he would like "some fish to take home." My husband, still not paying attention, said "yes, thank you", thinking there was leftover food from the Caterer. Instead...and I kid you not...the bride reappears moments later with a small glass bowl with a LIVE FISH in it!!! Yes, I said it, a live fish! That's when my husband finally noticed the beach themed decor all over the rented hall. And this bride's FAVORS were live fish in a bowl! LMBO!!!!  Although a unique twist to a beach theme...and a cute pet for us for about 6 weeks....this is GOING TOO FAR!!!  Not only was this an outrageous expense to have purchased that many fish but the favor idea backfired! Most of the guests left their bowls on the tables, not wanting to deal with it. Not only was it money down the drain (literally because I'm sure she had to flush those fish), but what will the guests remember? The beach theme and experience the bride wanted to create? Or just the live fish? Do you want your wedding remembered as the fish wedding? LOL I think not.

So ladies, choose your theme wisely and execute it elegantly. Have fun wth it, but be conservative. Don't tape sea shells to the walls, or ask your guests to wear cowboy hats and mustaches to your wedding. How tacky and inconvenient for your guests! Execute your theme to the fullest, but make sure everything is pleasing to the eye and completely representative of who you and your partner are. And if you need help, do not be afraid to contact a Decorator in your area, such as Simple Elegance Event Planning at www.mysimpleelegance.com. Not only will a Decorator advise you about how far you should go, but by hiring someone to execute your theme, you take the stress off of yourself or family members to get it done on your big day.

Next week, we'll discuss money saving tips for obtaining all of those MUST HAVES and incorporating your Theme, while staying on budget!

Enjoy your day, Wed-heads!
And remember, no fish! LOL